I have a couple of friends in their fifties whose mothers still dominate their lives. These are very successful people, both financially and socially, but a few choice words from their mothers can reduce to shreds. Why is it that some mothers find it so hard to ‘let go’? Why do some mothers act as if their children have never grown up and are incapable of making the right decision? Have a look at www.dominantmother.com and read some of the horror stories there.
One of the things you learn as a parent is the need to ‘let go’ and allow the child to develop independence. Some mothers don’t seem to have grasped that.
7:37 am on December 1st, 2008 1
Unfortunately, yes. But I depend on her, what can I do? I think, it’s better to be patient and not to make conflicts…
4:27 pm on December 11th, 2008 2
A good idea is to try to find out if you
are dependent because you don’t want to
harm her by your independent ideas, acts etc.
If she’s overprotective that’s one story but if she
finds pleasure to dictate, resolve all ties one by one without thinking if this may harm in any way, just with the same “dictatorship”.
She’ll once become “naked” and powerless.
11:38 pm on December 12th, 2008 3
Its ahorrible thing to have acontroled mother for me im 20 years and i cant decide anything in my life with out my mothers opinion,i depend on her in every thing even when im going to to buy new clothes or whatever i like.i feel that i have no personality,i want to do things by my self because its my life not hers.
11:32 am on December 16th, 2008 4
for ladies it is OK to be controlled by their mothers, but it’s opposite for the guys! I have a husband who’s tied with her mother. First I thought what a great mother! but now it’s not. It seems like I’ve married to his mother not to him. He always stands at her side. I’m about to kill myself… but the stupid thing is I still love my husband….
12:08 pm on April 15th, 2009 5
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